sometimes people, even people you don’t know that well, can say the most basic things and make you feel really good. something for example like, “you should have been there, you would have loved it.” the good feeling comes from understanding, sensing, that they really mean it. and your emotion meets theirs.
god, i remember after jason died and i was still in belfast, i was at a party and a former classmate from my master’s program just came over to me and looked at me and kind of shook his head in sympathy. he didn’t even really say anything. it was just the look on his face; his emotion, the fact that he really cared, was so tangible. receiving that from another person isn’t something you forget. it’s almost like an electric current. i remember realizing at that moment, this is exactly what compassion is.